I've been working on healing. I ordered some jewelry to memorialize my son and help with the hurt. You can visit it at Healing Jewelry - This is a place dedicated to remembering the unborn due to miscarriage, infant loss and so on.
I ordered the following:
A baby tears necklace with the garnet stone instead of this blue one, since he was due January 20th. It came with a beautiful little poem:
We never heard your first tiny cry,
never wiped the teardrops from your eyes.
And though our hearts grieve, and we are bereft
we carry your teardrops, they are all we have left...
We carry them with us, tucked next to our heart
your memory with us always, we are never apart.
And this footprints charm with the garnet stone, as shown.
This is the back, on which I had engraved, "12 wks"
Here is the poem that arrived with these:
Tiny Footprints on a Mother's Heart
When a baby arrives,
be it for a day, a month, a year or more,
or perhaps only a sweet flickering moment-
the fragile spark of a tender soul
the secret swell of a new pregnancy
the goldfish flutter known to only you-
you are unmistakeningly changed...
the tiny footprints left behind on your heart
bespeak your name as Mother.
These came the same day as the last of the lab results from the miscarriage at the hospital. It was so hard to read that low hCG number on the report. I cried when it arrived, when the jewelry was opened, and when the Certificate of Life arrived from the The Church of the Holy Innocents on the same day... Let's just say it was a hard night.
Nights are the worst.